well, I've had to abandon RAID for the time being. I found an updated driver for LSI raid, created a custom installer for both 5.5 and 5.1 (which the driver said it supported) and still the install routine showed the two raw drives rather than the virtual drive. <sigh> this is most frustrating, but I need to get this out to the client this weekend so will hopefully revisit later.
Follow-up question: is there a way to convert a standard drive to RAID in the future without having to wipe the drive?