I have also been fighting this issue for about 12 months now although our issue was a little different.
I have only ever used the onboard port for the Service Console and vMotion activity.
When heavily utilised the onboard NC375i ports definitly drop or appear to suffer link loss, but then so do the other QLogic NIC's..
More of an issue for us has been the NC523SFP cards which carry NFS and guest traffic, also the NC375T's which carry traffic for some unique segment requirements.
I have had a call logged with both VMWare and HP on intially an issue with the NC523SFP regading link loss and an apparent card firmware hang.
This call has been on going for about a month now.
VMWare really could not define any issue with ESX but HP did eventually conceed there are some odd issues with the qLogic cards both NC523 and the NC375t. In both cases these issues had been addressed with the latest firmware... As I pointed out the previous 2 releases also resolved these issues and apparently had truely failed to do so..
After much to and fro activity with support, we replaced the cards with a later hardware release of the NC523. Unfortunatly this did not solve anything..
Again some more sending of logs and hours on the phone with HP 1st and 2nd level support guys.
In the end HP could not resolve this issue or make any reasonable suggestion as to how we could resolve it.
HP have now agreed to loan me 2x NC552SFP which will replace the NC523SFP and 2x NC365T which will replace the NC375T.
I'm happy to say I have now had 4 days of error free no link loss, no card hangs no anything..
In the 12 months these DL585G7's have been running this is the first time I've not seen logged link loss or hang issues in a 4 day period.
Oh the other DL585G7's which still have the original nic configuration have experienced issues during this 4 day period.
Of course it's been 4 days but so far so good..
OH and even though I've not altered the 375i (so the integrated qLogic Nic's) they have been stable.
I have for instance vMotioned some 200GB of running system (memory foot print etc) over these nic's and no failed vMotions.. Again this is a first for these servers..
I must admit I'm not sure why the stability of the onboard nic's has improved but the change is incredibly obvious..
I'm now going back to HP to discuss our purchase or swap out options to replace both the NC523SFP's and the NC375T's.
I want to see this QLogic rubbish gone..