figures after looking through the forums and googling for serveral hours 10 minutes after posting the question I find it. for anyone looking to do this below is what worked for me.
expands the provisioned size of the vmdk
Get-HardDisk -vm "My VM" | where {$_.Name -eq "Hard Disk 2"} | Set-HardDisk -CapacityGB 25 -Confirm:$false
extends the volume inside the guest OS
Get-HardDisk -vm "My VM" | where {$_.Name -eq "hard disk 2"} | Set-HardDisk -CapacityGB 25 -ResizeGuestPartition -Confirm:$false