Just back today, was you able to fix your problem? are those servers in the same network segment?
I can see that you have duplicate procset in your pdm_startup that are conflicting. did you edit that manually? as this is definitively wrong and the first one need to be removed
[ procset _REMOTE_PROCSET ]
MAIN_PROCSET
_REMOTE_QMNAMS1129
_REMOTE_qmnams1129
In fact looking at your daemon status the secondary have correctly started but the second one listed there is the duplicate reference in your pdm_startup
so just remove it and you must be good